25 Things You Don’t Have To Justify To Anyone

August 14, 2013 at 1:53 pm (Uncategorized)


Thought Catalog

1. Your job. Yes, even if you’re working something that other people condescendingly term “not a real job,” such as retail or service. If you have a job of any kind in this economy, you’ve already won.

2. Whether or not you have debt. If you managed to get out of your education debt-free, that doesn’t mean that your life is a financial walk in the park that you constantly have to be apologizing for. If you are in debt, it doesn’t mean you got a “worthless” degree and now deserve to be shamed for struggling to find work after you were convinced by your school that you were making a good decision.

3. The kind of food you enjoy eating, or why you enjoy eating. (No matter how “uncultured” or “boring” or “gross” someone else might deem your favorite food.)


4. Your decision to…

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August 12, 2013 at 2:22 am (Uncategorized)

“Everything is okay in the end; and if it’s not, then it’s not the end”

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Sakaye Taguma: 4/20/13-7/16/13

August 3, 2013 at 1:17 am (Uncategorized)

They say that the 7 Stages of Grief are as follows:

1)      Shock and denial

2)      Pain and guilt

3)      Anger and bargaining

4)      Depression, reflection, loneliness

5)      The upward turn

6)      Reconstruction and working through

7)      Acceptance and hope

[#2] Although living with regret is no way to live, there is only one thing I would change if I could. I was up in Sacramento for Father’s day dim sum with my Chinese side of the family and I had the opportunity to stop by my Oba-chan’s place to say hi before returning back to the Bay to catch my flight…but I decided not to. I wanted to go home and see some old friends before my flight instead. That would have been the last time (my sister and) I could have seen my Baba since I (we) live in Los Angeles now. Now the last time I saw her was when I returned home for Chinese New Year’s in February and the last time I spoke with her was on her birthday in April.

My Oba-chan (grandmother in Japanese) passed away on July 16th, 2013. Born April 20, 1931, she died at age 82. Although today (August 2nd, 2013) was her funeral, I think I am still in shock and denial [#1].  With the whole family over at my late Oji-chan and Ba-chan’s house, it just feels like Baba is just resting somewhere and is bound to pop out at any moment with an “oh, okaerinasai!” (“Welcome home”). She was too genki (healthy) to have passed away this suddenly. How could she leave us like this? What are we supposed to do without the rock of our family? We’re not ready for this! [#3] We take so much for granted in this family. Now that she’s gone, we’re slowly realizing everything that she did on a day-to-day basis. The thing that’s really bewildering is how she tended to all of the trees, plants and farming around the property. There’s so much growing and not a single sprinkler system in sight! To water everything by hand would literally take hours to complete, and that is what she did every day.

It’s really insane how much one small woman could do for the entire family – her own children and her children’s children, not to mention all of her late husband’s extended family and the community around her. At her funeral and reception, I was bewildered by how many people showed up to remember, grieve, and pray for my Oba-chan.  A funeral at 1pm on a Friday in Sacramento would require lots of these folks to take the day off – and that’s exactly what they did. The place was full of people that my Oba-chan in some way shape or form touched and left a lasting impression on. She meant so much to so many people, and it was really amazing and heartwarming to witness. I only hope that I will be half as good of a woman that she was. [#7]

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charlie sheen said something smart?

March 7, 2011 at 5:19 pm (Uncategorized)

“There is a fine line between confidence and cockiness. And when you lose sight of what side you’re walking on, that’s when you are in trouble.” – Carlos Irwin Estevez aka Mr. Charlie Sheen.

Note: Too bad he lost his job at Two and a Half Men and had a completely humiliating public (live streaming online) meltdown Monday (3/7) night.

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the happiest place on earth

March 7, 2011 at 2:04 pm (Uncategorized)

Disneyland is the Happiest Place on Earth no matter how old you are. 🙂 BIG THANKS to Carmela, Trish, and Ye Rin for coming with me to celebrate my 3rd Annual 21st (early) Birthday!!! MUCH LOVE ❤

Also: Sleeping Beauty’s Castle looked a LOT bigger when I was younger…some things kind of lost their magic :-/ age brings perspective; we are no longer naive happy kids. Hello real world.

Disneyland Adventure 3/5/11

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